Hey girl! You’ve completed your wedding day details, you know how it will be but have you thought about what kind of wife you’ll be? Do you want to have a heart for your husband?

We look at the day and don’t pay much attention to the role that we will play in the marriage.

If you are newly married, married for a long time, or dream of being married one day this post is for you.

Certainly, if this man is or will be your husband you know that you love or will love him. But, what does it mean to have a heart for your husband?

We know how women can operate, right?

We can love our husband until he says something we don’t like or overrule a decision that we really wanted to happen then we withhold our heart from him. This isn’t right.

 

 

Single women

 

You’re patiently waiting for the one that God has ordained to be your future husband. You know what colors you’re going to choose or if you want to have a courthouse wedding. Whatever the plan is you’ve already formulated it.

But, have you thought about what you will offer to your husband? What kind of wife do you want to be?

Have you thought about the difficult days that will arrive and how you will handle them?

How about the way you will love your husband when he is wrong? Yes, no, maybe…

So how can you cultivate having a heart for your husband right now?

Right now, as a single woman waiting on God, your duty is to love and minister to those around you.

 

Get active in the work of the Lord.

 

There are so many ministries where you can devote some of your time to helping others. Is there a need for a children’s church teacher? Allow God to use you in any capacity he desires. Volunteer at the local shelter or soup kitchen.

Reach out to those who are sick or minister to your married friend’s children. Serving others will prepare you to have a subservient heart towards your husband. Here is what God wants you to do as a single woman:

 

I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions.

1 Cor. 7:34-35 (The message)

 

Love your parents.

 

When you get married you will be joined to your husband. You will be bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. Your parents will no longer have the rule over you, your husband will be responsible for you, and you responsible for him. The Bible says that both of you will leave your parents and cleave to each other.

Before that time comes, in this season of singleness minister to your parents. Help them out financially if that’s possible and if that’s not an option then minister to them in any way you can. Offer to clean the house so your mom can have a day off. Offer to drive your dad to an appointment that he has. Observe them and see what works in their marriage.

If your parents aren’t married find a married couple in your local church that you admire. Observe and develop some of the skills that the wife has. Or better yet, go and talk to her and ask her to mentor you.

How do you respond to your dad when he does something that you disapprove of?

How about when he wrongfully accuses you?

You may be wondering why I’m asking you about your dad?

Until you become a married woman your dad is the man in your life. If your dad isn’t someone who you can rely on or if he is no longer with you, look around you and find someone that can fill his place. There are men of integrity that can encourage you and help you grow in your faith. As well as give you solid advice on dating.

Please keep in mind that the way you treat your dad or the level of respect that you have for him will translate into the way you treat your future husband.

Make sure that your speech is seasoned with salt and that your body language displays grace.

This will ensure that your husband will definitely praise you as was the case of the Proverb.31 woman.

 

 

The Married Woman

 

At this stage things become real.

Consequently, “nothing good comes easy” will definitely be manifested.

The honeymoon stage will wear off and you might begin to wonder where is the handsome, well put together man that said “I do” in front of God, your family, and friends?

You will be asking this question because you’re going to realize quickly that he isn’t perfect.

It is best to drop every ideology or wish that you’ve groomed in your mind about him. Clear your mind and love him for who he is.

 

 

Submission

 

In order to have a heart for your husband, you have to submit. (Here is an article that I wrote on submission.)

Yes, I know, I know, this is a word that we don’t like hearing. However, it is pretty simple.

Have respect for your husband.

Once there was a time my husband and I went to the store to buy shoes. When we got back to the vehicle, we witnessed a lady shouting at and demeaning her man. He was walking swiftly ahead of her and she was trailing behind calling him out of his manhood. Needless to say, it was embarrassing.

When he reached the car, she was still shouting at him as he entered. He didn’t so much as look in her direction or acknowledge what she was saying, he sat down and waited for her.

Above all, I was impressed by his restraint. She jumped into the car and we could still hear her voice as he drove off.

Then I looked at my husband and he said, “Thank God I have you as my wife because if I had a woman treat me like that, I don’t think I would have had his self-control.”

We talked about the incident the whole time we drove home.

 

 

Men are very simple. All they want is respect and sex. To show your husband that you love him show him respect. Realize that God has appointed him head over the household and respect his role.

As a result, he will sing your praises even when no one asked him about you.

This post is to be continued so be on the lookout for the rest of part two in the next post. You will want to know other ways to have a heart for your husband.

Here is the link to Part 2. Continue reading about ways you can show your husband you have a heart of love for him.

Thanks for stopping by,

I love you with the love of Christ! Join me in loving others God’s way.

Keneesha 🙂

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